7/13/11

The secret to Eddie Murphy's SNL success

A profile of Eddie Murphy from 1982, right after he finished shooting 48 Hours. [via JK]

In the piece, there's a good performance/auditioning tip: Think of the camera as just another person.



Ah, the ol' "smile with your eyes." Joe Piscopo also talks about Murphy's smile/vulnerability.



Here's some vintage Eddie from those days:





More clips of Eddie on SNL.

7/11/11

The Kaplan-Ruby Letters, Part Two

The second (and final) part of an email exchange between Myq Kaplan and myself. (Check out Part One.)

Ruby

Interesting that you feel your writing outpaced your performance skills. I feel like there's a certain confidence you get from performance reps that is hard to fake. It's like audiences can tell if you've been in the trenches before and for how long via some invisible transmission.

Sometimes that's the way I feel about shitty gigs — each one is another...well, let me backtrack. I feel like every standup needs a suit of armor. And the audience can tell whether or not you've got this suit. But the only way you build this suit of armor is one little piece at a time. Each shitty show or dingy mic is adding one more tiny piece of armor to that suit. So it takes years to get a full suit together.

Or at least that's what I tell myself so I feel better after shitty shows and dingy mics. After all that crap you begin to think, "There's nothing you people can do to me that hasn't already been done." And I think people sense that and respond positively to it.

As for your questions about my early days, I think I was probably more confident than I should have been when I started. For one thing, I had been performing music live for years so I think that helped me with feeling comfortable onstage. And early on, I lucked into some good gigs and got semi-regular spots at a club for a bit. So that prob made me think I had more juice than I really did. I think that lasted for six months to a year and then I started doing more rooms and things shifted and I started reevaluating everything. Around that time, I started taking more chances and trying different things (characters, one-liners, changing how I delivered jokes, doing weird videos, etc.) in order to figure out what felt most right for me. That involved more failure but I think I learned a lot from it. I also started to figure out who I wanted to be onstage more. That helped me filter out what I did and didn't want to talk about.

Oh, and We're All Friends Here started three years ago and that had an impact on me too. It's the most fun I have performing and it's all about being real and tension/release. Sometimes we get laughs at that show that just feel deeper and more human than the ones you get from doing jokey jokes. It's made me want to bring that same vibe to my standup. Also, I'm amazed when a standup is offstage and being really interesting talking about their own life and then they go onstage and talk about silly pop culture shit. I don't want to be like that.

(But then again, I have a newish quick joke about the Black Eyed Peas that I tossed off but it does well...so do I really give that up? It's a wrestling match inside my brain. Now I'm trying to figure out why I care about the Black Eyed Peas and trying to see if there's a way to frame the joke so it's about me and my worldview instead of just "those guys are dumb.")

And yes, I do like confident performers. Doesn't everyone? Maybe the ideal is someone who is confident yet also taking chances at the same time. So there's a hint of "this may not go well" involved too. Danger is exciting. (Also, criminals are sexy.)

Back to you: Is there a system to how you prioritize material? What do you know now that you didn't know years ago? Do you just trust your gut or do you have a way of knowing what's worth working on? I could see you with a spreadsheet of topics/jokes. But maybe that is because I feel like comedy, in some ways, is a series of math problems to you.

Also, you're performing for much bigger crowds now post-LCS, right? How has the size of the audience changed the way you perform? Is it a letdown when you come to a struggling NYC show and the audience members are apathetic?

Kaplan

First, is your Black-Eyed Peas joke that you want to give them black eyes and pee on them? Because if it's not, then it's mine now. Whether I want it or not. But if it is yours, then I like it.

Regarding comedy being mathematical to me, I'd say there's some truth to that. I'm a mathematical person, though I'd say that a lot of us are, maybe not as explicitly, but most of us will do a cost-benefit analysis at some point of "I like this joke but the audience doesn't, so how much time and energy and work do I put into shifting those scales before I decide to cut my losses?" Ideally, the equation is "I like it + the audience likes it = everyone wins," and I would say that my prioritization is based on a shifting equilibrium of the components of that equation. (I would say that if it made sense, that is.)

I'm not sure exactly why or explicitly how I'm better at prioritizing now. Probably it's some combination of knowing what I like about myself and my comedy now more than in the past (when I'd be more beholden to what the AUDIENCE liked), along with just having lots more opportunity for stagetime to stick with the things that I like and push them into being what I want them to be. So maybe it's not prioritizing at all. Maybe if I prioritized differently, I'd still net positive results.

One thing that I do now that I didn't do as much in the past is riff a lot more when I'm working on new material. Two big inspirations in that vein are Rory Scovel and Micah Sherman. Seeing Rory leave his material and just follow any tangent to its logical (or illogical) conclusion is wonderful. Same with Micah, just always willing and able to just keep creating based on whatever twists and turns are happening right there in the then and now (where now is also then). A lot of punchlines of mine ended up being the result of just continuing to speak after I thought the original joke that I had conceived was over. What Paul F. Tompkins does is also a major inspiration, with his show-starting riffing.

And that actually goes along with why I love doing shows like Hot Soup, or Chelsea and Aalap's show that I just did last Friday. I sometimes have MORE fun with a small audience than with a gigantic one, depending on the circumstances. I just did a weekend headlining a club in South Carolina, and while Friday and Saturday had packed houses, my favorite show was Wednesday, which almost got canceled but at the last minute about 20 people ended up being there, and it was the most fun. Sometimes a packed Saturday night crowd brings with it the feeling of obligation to "play the hits" or "put on a good show," as opposed to what I did with the smaller crowd, which was just being more present, more in the moment. And that's not to say I don't try to do that with bigger crowds also; when crowds are good, I'll go off book as much as possible, forging new joke paths and birthing new joke babies. But when there are fewer people, sometimes the capacity to do that is optimized in a way that isn't quite when the room is full. Or maybe it's a constraint I put on myself.

Here's a question: you're a person who I believe enjoys comedians who are in the moment, AND comedians who are revealing deeper truths about themselves. Does one hold more sway over your comedy heart than the other, if they're at odds? By which I mean, someone can perfect a routine about their most recent heartbreak, someone could do a hilarious and poignant one-person show about a wrenching issue. But someone else can be in the moment and just be creating hilarious nonsense. Obviously some folks are capable of both. Rory says real things in his standup, but also some of my favorite moments of his are just spontaneity that doesn't necessarily have a higher point other than being hilarious. For you, is there a way to say that one moment is more meaningful than another?

The way I write my comedy now, in its ideal form, is shifting back and forth between having a spontaneous moment on stage, and then analyzing and mining that moment later for future use, which will lead to future spontaneous moments, which can then be capitalized on in the future-future. Etc.

I think that sheds a little light (to me) on the way I prioritize as well. Every time I listen back to a set where something new (and in that moment, real) happened, I am excited about getting onstage again to share that moment with the next crowd, to see what will come of it then. And if it's happening with different jokes, new tags arising, new lines of thought that I want to follow, it's like a series of intertwining streams of consciousness that are choosing to be told rather than my doing the choosing (or I am choosing it, but simply for the reason that I'm interested in covering as much new ground as possible, mapping out a wider and wider area for my comedy to cover). I don't mean to get too new agey and decree that I'm some kind of vessel or anything.

I just love coming up with new things and perfecting them as much as possible, and seeing where that perfecting leads, to other new things. Perfect makes practice.

With regard to the idea of taking something positive out of every lousy gig, I fully support that, and have experienced it, and still do. I go into every show situation optimistic, and aim to come out that way as well. Hopefully at least one new thing happens in each show. You're a step ahead of where you were. One new horrible audience didn't destroy you. You're ready for the next horrible audience. Or readier to make them a good one.

The right combination of caring and not caring is key, I think. Do everything you can, but know that not everything is within your control, and that makes more things BE within your control. Know that we all die eventually, so why not be fearless when we're alive. The only thing there is to fear is death and pain. And those will happen anyway, so why add fear to the mix?

Ruby

Re: in the moment vs. deeper truths. The easy way out is to say a hybrid of the two is ideal. Maybe an 80/20 ratio of prepared/riffed material? (Look, we brought math into it. Pareto!)

But if I had to choose, I'd go for the prepared, deeper, truthful material. This is why I prefer standup to improv. It lets you have a point of view. You can actually make points and say something. I think it can lead to real philosophical insight and deep truths. That's pretty rare in improv.

Don't get me wrong, improv/riffing can be magical. It's often the stuff that makes me laugh hardest. But it also tends to "evaporate" practically instantly. You can never tell someone about a great improv show you saw. Well, you can but it's kinda like telling someone about one of your dreams. They are items #1 and #2 on the "you had to be there" list of things. Great standup lingers more.

I do think riffing is a good way to develop material though. In my experience, it comes out sounding a lot more organic than written material. Related: One of my favorite things onstage is when something gets a laugh and I have no idea why it got a laugh. I feel like that's the audience teaching me that something is funny.

PFT's opening riffing is interesting. I've seen him live several times and it seems like it's a challenge to himself to see how long he can go riffing. As if that's the most fun part of the show for him. The way I often feel about riffing — unless you're a master at it like Rory or Jimmy Pardo — is that it's a bit selfish (i.e. more pleasing to the performer) while the prepared material is generous (i.e. more pleasing to the audience). Or, said more simply: riffing is for you, prepared material is for them.

Also, you bring up a good point about the freedom you get from doing less than perfect shows. Paid gigs/big crowds come with a different set of expectations. You've got to deliver the goods instead of just doing whatever you want. I like that pressure but I can see how you'd also long for a low stakes environment after a while of "ideal" shows.

Phew, well exchanged. Any final thoughts?

Kaplan

Final thoughts! Boy, do I have them! Get ready!

First, let me say I'm a huge fan of deep truths and philosophical insights. Furthermore, let me say, what if the deepest, truest, most insightful philosophy leads one to being in the moment? I'm no zen master, but I am a zen dabbler. And I'm not just trying to do semantic tricks here; sincerely, wisdom of the ages has often lauded the moment, the now. Not to say that the future doesn't exist (but does it?), or that we shouldn't consider it (but should we? yes, probably)...

This is actually something that I consider whenever I eat psilocybin mushrooms. As a person concerned with having the richest, fullest experience in life, I find myself (present) at odds with myself (future). Should I just experience the amazing time I'm having right now? Or should I attempt to remember or record important parts of that experience for later? Sometimes it seems like just laughing in the present is the way to go, and sometimes it seems like important truths are reached, sometimes during those laughings, and they should be retained...

And that's only considering myself, and not an audience. The idea that riffing is for the comedian and doing prepared material is for the audience makes sense, in a way, but also misses something. Some people love seeing material created before their eyes and ears (next to their ears?), even if it's in the rawest form, some ESPECIALLY in its rawest form. I definitely have had times when a riff leads me somewhere that I and the audience know might be more polished in the future, but is more real in the present. And it's not just fleeting things. I saw Stanhope one time at Comix do a show where he spoke to a real-life therapist, as part of a concept show where the therapist would just chat with the comedian about his actual potential problems. Stanhope was just being himself, in the moment, and also saying very real things that were lasting and insightful, made MORE powerful by the fact that they were in the moment.

Though that is going back to the copout you addressed initially, that obviously if both are possible, that could be the best. And it's an additional copout to use Stanhope as a reference, because I think he's one of the best thinkers and funniest comedians, and not many people do what he does as well as he does.

But that said, riffing isn't ONLY for the comedian, when I do it, at least. Number one, I'll only really get into it when I feel like the audience is there with me for it, and them being into it is part of what makes me able to keep going with it. And yes, sometimes I might reach a point where, if it were prepared material, I might have stopped a moment sooner. And perhaps if I re-create that with another audience in the future, I will indeed stop before I reach that point. But that means that riffing wasn't just for me in another way; it was also for that future audience. Riffing in the present serves the future crowds for whom it will no longer be riffing. Comedy as time travel.

That said, of course I don't have all the answers. And maybe the monks who just sit all day being in the moment don't either. But there is something very real and truthful about a moment, even if it cannot be explained without "you had to be there"-ing. But maybe that is the ultimate truth. The monk doesn't say "you had to be there." He says "be there." Or maybe he doesn't say anything. Or maybe he's a woman. A bald lady monk. My point is, become a monk, do some mushrooms, and start riffing. Somewhere in there, you'll find the truth you're looking for.

7/8/11

Surprising yourself

From Black Swan:

Nina: I want to be perfect.
Thomas: [scoffs] Perfection is not just about control. It's also about letting go. Surprise yourself so you can surprise the audience. Transcendence! Very few have it in them.


Applied to comedy, it's a good argument for abandoning the script onstage. Surprise is key to getting laughs. And if you're surprised by what you're saying, chances are they will be too.

I had no idea where I was going during this set. That's why it was so gratifying when I actually wound up somewhere. Felt like completing a wobbly tightrope walk.

7/7/11

Video: On The Street with Mark Normand - Gay Marriage

Mark Normand finds out what New Yorkers have to say about the legalization of gay marriage. Filmed and edited by yours truly. More fun videos on the way soon. Stay tuned.

7/6/11

Hot Soup w/ Adomian & Chicago dates

The lineup for Friday (July 8) night's show:

James Adomian
Damien Lemon
Andy Sandford
Adam Newman
Nore Davis
Andy Haynes
Matt Ruby

Hot Soup!
Every Friday at 8pm
FREE SHOW
O'Hanlon's (back room)
349 E 14th St between 1st and 2nd Ave. (map)
Produced by Matt Ruby, Mark Normand, Andy Haynes, and David Cope

You can also see me at these shows:

July 6 - 9:00pm - Gandhi, is that You? @ Lucky Jack's
July 10 - 6:30pm - Strawberry Hanukkah @ Coco 66
July 12 - 9:00pm - Chicago Underground Comedy @ Beat Kitchen (Chicago, IL)
July 13 - 8:00pm - CYSK @ Timothy O'Tooles (Chicago, IL)
July 14 - 9:00pm - Rotten Comedy @ The Oakwood (Chicago, IL)
July 15 - 8:00pm and 10:00pm - Red Bar Comedy Club (Chicago, IL)
July 16 - 8:00pm and 10:00pm - Red Bar Comedy Club (Chicago, IL)

More shows

6/29/11

Upcoming shows: DC, Holiday Cocktail Lounge, Lucky Jack's

I'm outta town again but there's a great lineup at Hot Soup this week: Mike Lawrence, Meatsteak, Brooke Van Poppelen, and Jesse Popp. And it's Sachi's bday.

Here's where I'll be telling jokes in the near future...

June 29 - 6:00pm - Bloggers on Broadway @ Broadway Comedy Club
June 29 - 7:00pm - Our Amazing Show @ Holiday Cocktail Lounge
June 30 - 8:00pm - Topaz (DC)
July 6 - 9:00pm - Gandhi, is that You? @ Lucky Jack's
July 8 - 8:00pm - Hot Soup @ O'Hanlon's
July 10 - 6:30pm - Strawberry Hanukkah @ Coco 66

6/28/11

The Kaplan-Ruby Letters, Part One

This is Part One of a two-part email exchange between Myq Kaplan and myself. (Thanks to Gladwell-Simmons for the inspiration.)

Ruby

I'll start with this: You've mentioned Stanhope is your favorite comic out there. This seems curious to me since you have such a different style than him. Why do you love him so much? Do you see your comedy evolving in a more Stanhope-ian (or other) direction in the future? Do you think consciously about big picture "what is my voice?" stuff like that or just take it one joke at a time?

Kaplan

Stanhope is indeed one of my favorites to watch and listen to. To start with, I have a difficult time saying he is number one above all others, because there are so many amazing folks out there that make it difficult to compare. Though that's the great thing about comedy, is that everyone who is great at it is great in their own way, from Stanhope to Paul F. Tompkins to Reggie Watts to Ellen DeGeneres to Steven Wright to Brian Regan to Louis CK to Sarah Silverman to Andy Kindler to Dave Chappelle to everyone else, etc. And it doesn't have to be a competition. Unless it's televised and there's prize money.

It is true that many of the comics I love do something different than I do, stylistically. But certainly, what I love about Stanhope is his content. As a human being, I care about a lot of the things that he talks about, topics like overpopulation and discrimination and the various ills facing the inhabitants of this planet (and maybe the universe if we someday screw up even bigger than ever). Additionally, the angles that he takes on these issues are usually different than 99% of the typical perspectives you hear argued out there. E.g. his take on whether there should or should not be gay marriage: there should be NO marriage, period. Things like that. A lot of people throw the word "genius" around where it might not belong, and who am I to not be like a lot of people? Great numbers of people think a like, right? Point is, he's a genius at what he does (and I'm a genius at genius-spotting). He's also super-prolific, which I love, and very hard on himself, which I don't think is necessary, but certainly serves to serve his being prolific, thus avoiding being complacent and constantly moving forward creatively. Or at least moving sideways, but at such a level that who cares which way he's moving, it's just wonderful to take in.

I don't think it would make sense to only enjoy people that are similar to yourself. If I only listened to Mitch Hedberg and Emo Philips and Demetri Martin and Brian Kiley and Steven Wright and other wonderful jokesmiths, I'd have a lovely time but would certainly be missing out on the wealth and range of comedy options out there. If you're only enjoying folks similar to yourself, then who would watch Reggie Watts?

That said, with respect to the question of my comedy vs. Stanhope's, I do also currently aim to address the woes of the world in my way. I don't do it exclusively, but I discuss social issues that I care about like homophobia, racism, sexism, animal cruelty, etc., amongst the logic play, the word tricks, the silliness, the jokes about comic books, movies, and whatever else I'm talking about at the moment.

I certainly imagine my comedy will continue to evolve, though I don't feel as though I need to be the architect of that evolution. Seinfeld said in "Comedian," I believe, something like (paraphrasing) "if you ask any comedian where he gets his joke ideas, and he can tell you, he's lying," that we all have our muses, our selves, our voices, our personas, that develop without necessary any conscious guidance. And that really makes sense to me. After all, would you ever say, "Steven Wright, I've enjoyed everything you've ever done, but could you tell us what's REALLY inside of you? What REALLY happened when you spilled spot remover on that dog?" I mean, he seems like a very interesting dude, but if he never evolves towards being a more confessional comic, I don't think it would be reasonable to slight him for it. He is a brilliant artist with the palette he has chosen, or that has chosen him, even.

And what about some of the great comics who HAVE undergone a drastic shift of style over the years? Paul F. Tompkins is one of my favorite, and I thoroughly enjoy both "Impersonal" AND the more personal stuff he's doing today. Same with Louis CK's absurdity of the past and his laser-like truth-gun of hilarity today. (For the record, I have a friend who prefers CK's absurdist past to his honest, everyman present, on the grounds that his previous absurdism was just as honest, because that was who he was, truly.)

This might be getting a bit far afield of your original question, so to get back to it—I imagine there are ways in which I'll never be like Stanhope, and there are ways in which I'll always be myself. Though the self is an ever-changing, ever-evolving being, and as my comedy today is certainly different than it was five years ago, I presume/hope/imagine that it will be somewhat different five/ten/fifteen years from now as well.

As to whether I have big picture goals and aspirations about my voice and the comedian I'll be, I think it makes sense to say that on a theoretical level, yes, but on a practical level, one joke/idea/riff/story/thought at a time is how it works. I read a quote about how analyzing oneself is like trying to bite one's own teeth, so while it can be a good philosophical exercise, ultimately the only thing you can do is do, or be (so, two things).

The only real conscious decision-making portion of it all might be figuring out which jokes go into a TV set, a special, a CD, a headlining set, etc. This is something that everyone faces eventually. When you start out and you only have 5 minutes of material, there is no question of which 5 minutes you share; you share everything. But eventually, choices need to be made. And on what grounds? Do the funniest stuff only? Or do stuff that goes together thematically? Stuff that says something about a particular topic that means something to you? Stuff that is more personal? Stuff that is just fun for you to do? Or stuff that audiences consistently love the most?

Ideally, it would be wonderful if all of those things were the same. But even for the best, it might not be that way. Louis CK has talked about throwing out chunks that kill because they don't fit in with everything else he wants to do. That's impressive and amazing to hear. Right now, I'm just working and writing and heading towards the next hour to record, at which point I may have to decide on how to whittle down more than an hour's worth of material that I'm happy with. Maybe I'll pick the stuff that's most meaningful even if it didn't get the most laughs (is that Stanhope-ian?), or maybe I'll pick the stuff that tickles me the most, even if it's not the most socially relevant (is that Stanhope-ian?). Or maybe some producer or editor will pick, even though they told me I would be involved in the process (that is definitely less Stanhope-ian, and I hope to evolve away from that as much as possible, for sure).

Ruby

It's interesting. So many comics seem to be searching for their "voice" and yet the act of looking for it is seemingly a waste of time if it's something you can't really consciously decide upon. Like you say, the only thing you can do is be.

(Before I go further, let me acknowledge that while you're doing spots on the Tonight Show, etc., I'm still scraping by for gigs and doing mics. I don't want people to think I'm considering us on equal footing. Ok, caveat = taken care of.)

Lately I've been feeling that finding your voice is really more about eliminating things than finding them. Like you need to say: Yes, this is something I could talk about onstage and probably get a laugh from. But that is pulling me away from who I want to be and how I want the audience to see me. In that way, what you say no to feels like the key.

For a long time, I felt a sense of desperation to get laughs however possible. Only recently have I considered that maybe laughs aren't the most important thing...well, that's not right....more that there is a quality to laughs. You can get big laughs with a dick joke or mocking Sarah Palin but it is not equal to getting medium laughs with something that is actually personally revealing. The idea of taking emotional risks onstage, as I've heard Marc Maron describe it. That even if something doesn't get a huge laugh but it does show you out there being vulnerable and revealing yourself, it is worth more than something silly that does get an audience going. It's something they might actually think about a few days later after they've forgotten other stuff. And it's a way for them to remember you as a person instead of just a mask spouting off a collection of jokes.

Also, I've got a new bit I'm working on where I worked in a reverse way than I usually do. Usually I'm out there hunting for funny things and then testing it on an audience for confirmation laughs. But this new thing (about a family conversation I had) started with me going onstage and just telling a story. I felt engaged with the audience in a different way than usual. It wasn't funny that first time I did it, but I knew that it was something to stick with. (And people came up to me and told me so afterwards, which is rare for a bit that isn't really working yet.) So I've been doing it for the past few weeks and trying to force it into something funny. It's getting there but still needs some polishing, especially at the ending. But it's been interesting to start with a topic and then figure out what's funny about it instead of starting with something funny and then figuring out how to expand it.

Btw, back to the voice thing. Do you think you've found your voice? When I think about your comedy in this way, I wonder how much of "Myq Kaplan's voice" is the rhythm and style which you speak about things as opposed to the content of what you're saying. Do you ever think about this? That maybe you can talk about anything now because you've got a distinct delivery/tone and it will still sound like you. I feel like pace is more important to you than it is to a lot of comics. Like if you talked slowly (like, say, Todd Barry), you'd be an entirely different comic.

Also, I never saw you in your early years doing standup. When do you think you started getting good? Were there pivotal stages in your development that you look back on as "awakenings"? (By that, I mean were you in a coma and did Robin Williams help you get out of it.)

And while I'm piling on the questions: Do you think there are different "requirements" for a newer comic than an established one? Is it silly for a comic who is, say, four years in to try to do what Stanhope or CK is doing right now? Do you think you have to establish your short game (presumably with tighter, quicker jokes) before you can shoot for the moon with long game bits that really dive deep like Stanhope's "fuck the Jews" or CK's "everything's amazing, nobody's happy"?

Kaplan

One problem with a newer comic trying to do what someone great is doing is just that—trying isn't doing. I don't mean to get all Buddhist or Yoda up in here, but what I mean is, a lot of people starting out will see Pryor and then just swear a lot, or see Stanhope and then just talk about horrible things that they've done. And when they're not also bringing the poise, talent, and years of experience that those geniuses bring, it will very often just come off as crazy yelling or aggression with no point. And while some new folks may see Steven Wright and then just start out being weird by emulating him (which will require shedding from one's act to eventually find oneself, just as the Stanhope wannabe must), at least the Steven Wright wannabe won't immediately turn off or shut down the audience in a way that the misguided swears and horrible truths can (when not accompanied by craft/skill/humor).

And of course I'm not advocating censorship. Anyone starting out can say whatever they want. But saying certain things might lead towards the path of finding oneself more quickly than others, at least initially. And this isn't just about the practical notion that if you're always walking the room, you might have trouble getting bookings (which provide the stagetime necessary to gain the experience to stop doing the bad thing). There's a Patton Oswalt interview where he compares getting great at comedy to becoming a great chef, wherein the chefs start off just cooking rice until they can make the best rice, and that some aspiring comics want to skip the part where they learn how to cook rice.

I'm sure there are exceptions. I don't know what Chappelle was like when he started as a teenager, but he's a guy who seems like he might have been ready to go very early on. It's hard to imagine a Chappelle who doesn't just exude funny. But if you're a new comic, think about the odds that you might not be a one-in-a-million genius, at least not at the get-go, and do the work.

And one might ask who am I to make this assessment? Good question, because I am someone who started out writing one-liners because they're what came most naturally to me. What if they don't come most naturally to you? Well, look at amazing story-tellers like Mike Birbiglia, or raw truth-tellers like Marc Maron... And then look at them do a late-night set where they are also extremely capable short-form joke-tellers. They know rice, as well as great poignant stories about rice.

As far as my start in standup, and when I started "getting good"... This should all be taken with as many grains of salt as necessary, because I know there are folks 25 years in that think they just started getting good 23 years in. It's an ongoing process, and when Seinfeld and Chris Rock are 50 years in, they'll still be having insights about how good you get in your comedy 40s.

But comparing where I am now to 8-9 years ago... I think my writing was closer to where it is now than my performance was. I look back at tapes from my first few years and I'm horrified by the stiltedness of my delivery, the unnaturalness. And this isn't to say anything about how I feel about my performance now. I honestly don't think about it consciously that much all the time (other than the occasional consideration about speed), but the general advice to "just keep doing it and you'll get better" has been paying off, I think. And hopefully it will continue to do so.

As far as my writing goes, there are things that I wrote that were good years ago that I didn't even know were good until more recently, or that I couldn't MAKE good until more recently. And there were hundreds of things that weren't good. And today I'm still coming up with hundreds of things that will never see the light of day more than one or two times, until maybe 10 years from now when I look back and figure out how to make THESE things good. What I do think I've gotten better at is knowing how to prioritize, figuring out what jokes have the most potential more quickly, or what jokes I'm more interested in making have more potential. I also do a lot more writing/riffing on stage now than I ever did when I was starting out, and I'm not really sure when that started.

It was all a gradual process, with little milestones along the way. Getting to different rounds of different contests and festivals, having college friends that didn't think I was that funny when I started change their minds, having other comedians I respect respond positively to what I was doing more and more, just getting to work for certain bookers and venues in the Boston area, ... when the booker of the Comedy Connection saw me do well at the Boston Comedy Festival one year, and then a few months later booked me for my first weekend opening for a national headliner there, that was a moment where I saw the results of the gradual changes that had been slowly coming into being. That was probably around 2005 or 2006, 3 or 4 years in? Everything was happening gradually up until that point, and then after it, but that was when I noticed more people noticing and caring what I was doing, when previously it seemed like no one was noticing (but in fact people might have been noticing and not caring).

As I type that last part, I realize that might not have been what you were asking, because that was about external stuff rather than the internal stuff you might have been after... so here's the answer to that, I think... you never really know if what you're doing is any good. Or maybe not never. But let's start with never. You take a joke to an audience. You think it's a good idea. They don't. When you're starting out, you might give up. Now, if I still think it's a good idea, or if one out of ten audiences tells me it is, maybe I know better how to use what that one good audience told me, in order to make it nine out of ten audiences liking it. At some point along the way, I learned a certain kind of confidence that seemed more justified than the delusional confidence that a lot of us start with (which is often necessary). I don't know when that happened, if there was a lightbulb or if it was also gradual. But eventually I reached a place where I knew that I could make things work, creatively. Not for every crowd, but for myself (most importantly), and for my crowds, and for most crowds, even.

This is getting long (that's what Pinnocchio said! which would be a lie if he said it, and then it wouldn't... Pinnocchio really could have done some paradox testing), so I'll try to wrap it up, with the topic of my voice. Have I found it? Does it pertain to my pacing? What is a voice?

I do consider how fast I speak sometimes. I've gotten notes about it before, from varying sources and types who give notes. A goal of mine is obviously to be understandable, and also to be myself. My self does speak more quickly than a lot of people, so on stage it's not that different all the time. Though there are times when I consciously make an effort to slow down, at which point I don't believe my persona or self or voice gets lost or distorted in any way. One of the best shows I ever had, the audience was laughing so much that I had no choice but to slow down, wait for them, and move forward. And that's the thing—like with tennis where some people play up to the level of any opponent, I find that often my pace will match the audience. If a joke makes them laugh this much, the next line comes that much sooner. Some of the jokes are built to roll, keep moving forward, and so it becomes a conversation (like has been said of standup before), as opposed to me just saying what I want to say at the rate I want to say it.

It's possible that I just speak quickly because I have a lot that I want to say. Life is short, and I want to cram in as much living and talking and idea-sharing and joke-telling as possible. I think that that mindset definitely informs the style that I've grown into. Maybe it will change at some point. Maybe I'll change it.

So, I wouldn't say that I've found my voice, because I was never explicitly looking for it. Maybe someone would say (in their voice) that my current voice found me. Maybe someone else would say that that's splitting semantic hairs. Maybe a further person would say that splitting semantic hairs IS my voice, or at least one thing that my voice is good at saying. Maybe all of these people are me.

I'll leave off going back into whether I think getting to know someone with fewer laughs is more or less valuable than laughing tons at silliness. I will say that some of my biggest laughs have come from Brian Regan's silliness and Louis CK's absurdities, in addition to Stanhope's truths (which, in truth, sometimes make my brain marvel more than laugh uproariously, though they do both... but that might be why I love him, because of how he makes my brain feel, and I love feeling with my brain).

Questions for you: when you started comedy, were you confident? Should you have been? Did you think you were funny? Did you know that you weren't? Were you? Do you like confident performers? Is that a weird/vague question?

Go to Part Two.

6/27/11

The importance of smiling

Good interview with Neal Brennan. He talks about smiling and laughing onstage and how that makes you more likable.

I focus on performance. And being more dynamic as a performer. I used to do a thing, and I did it on my Lopez set, where when I was going onstage, I would give a friend of mine 200 bucks and for every time I smile onstage, you have to give me 20 bucks back. So I knew that if I wanted to get my money back, I would have to smile onstage.

It's like one of these things that's such a good practice. Because the first time I did it, I lost 120 bucks. But when I did it on Lopez, Lopez is easier, I did it and smiling helps. And I got my money back. So I do that, and I've been doing something recently where I watch the audience laughing, which I never did before. Laughing at my jokes, which makes you then laugh, and when you laugh you're more likable, and you're having more of a conversation with them. You're in the moment with them. Instead of just, "I am performing, we're having 2 totally different experiences now. You're having fun, but I'm working." No, it's like, "We're both having fun." So that's one thing.

And when I was in New York, I was working a lot with Aziz Ansari, and he has a really, really great work ethic when it comes to stand up. He listens to every single set he does. He'll write notes in his notebook about it, he'll change punch lines, he'll alter tags, and he's really really dogged, to the point of it being kind of weird to people. Because he'll be sitting at a table with a bunch of comedians, with his headphones on, just listening to his own stand up, but it really improves your (set). I remember when I was kid, I remember my brother Kevin and (Dave) Attell would tape their sets, and then when I was doing it I wasn't, and now I started, and I just know it makes you better. So I've been listening to all my sets. It's just also more positive reinforcement when you're listening to yourself get laughs right before you go on. So that's helpful also.

The other thing is you just need the flight hours. You just need the 10,000 hours, you need the reps. You have to do it, and do it, and do it, and do it. That's the thing with TV, you don't know how your body's going to react, you know. When I did Fallon, I wasn't as engaging as I was on Lopez because I didn't know what my body was going to do. My body tended to get a little small. Whereas on Lopez, I knew, "Hey, just so you know, Neal, you're body may get a little tight and small. So you have to counteract that." Which is why I did the smiling, 200 bucks thing.


Here's Brennan's Lopez set:



Interviewer Scott King also did a bunch of other good pieces with Attell, Burr, and Norton for their JFL Chicago shows.

Related: Malcolm Gladwell on what makes a great performer: 10,000 hours

6/24/11

Hot Soup with Dixon, Miller, and Hamilton

I'm in Boston doing shows tonight (6/24) but there's a stellar Hot Soup lineup...

FRI 6/24 HOT SOUP LINEUP
Pat Dixon
TJ Miller
Ryan Hamilton
Dan Soder
Justy Dodge
Jeff Wesselschmidt

Hot Soup!
Every Friday at 8pm
FREE SHOW
O'Hanlon's (back room)
349 E 14th St between 1st and 2nd Ave. (map)
Produced by Matt Ruby, Mark Normand, Andy Haynes, and David Cope

6/21/11

Show photos: Kabin, Broadway Comedy Club, etc.

Photos I've recently taken at comedy shows/mics in NYC:

Stone Mill Theater (Little Falls, NY) (Taken with instagram)

Stone Mill Theater (Little Falls, NY)


Village Lantern (Taken with instagram)

Village Lantern


Kabin 4-Year Anniversary  (Taken with instagram)

Kabin 4-Year Anniversary


Treehouse

Treehouse


Freddy’s Back Room (Taken with instagram)

Freddy’s Back Room


Broadway Comedy Club (Taken with instagram)

Broadway Comedy Club


Hog Pit

Hog Pit

FYI: I'm using Instagram to edit/upload these shots and I've been collecting them online at SandpaperSuit.tumblr.com if you want to follow along.

6/20/11

Tracy Morgan's comments and what civilians will never totally understand about doing standup comedy

The Tracy Morgan conversation has folks arguing about just how much the comedy stage should be a "safe space." When I hear civilians lashing out at words said onstage, I think there's something they miss. Until you've actually performed standup comedy and talked extemporaneously to a crowd, you'll never know what it's really like. Once you do, you can't help but empathize at least a little bit with someone who takes that chance and fucks up.

Improvising or writing onstage is a tightrope walk. And if you're talking about edgy/provocative topics, it can be even more dangerous. That's part of what makes it so thrilling to watch. Make it to the other side and it can be magical. Fall off and you wind up in a shark pit. (Is that a thing?)

Comics defend other comics for the same reason that cops defend other cops; We've been there before. When a civilian hears about an innocent suspect that gets gunned down, he's outraged: "How could this happen?" When a cop hears about it, he'll say something about the stress of being in the line of fire: "You'll never know what it's like to approach a suspect and not be sure if he's reaching for a wallet or a gun." Luckily for us, we don't actually kill when we "kill."

Personally, I take anything that is improvised on a comedy stage with a huge grain of salt. Because I've said plenty of in-the-moment things onstage I later regretted. As bad as Morgan or Michael Richards? Probably not. But there has definitely been plenty of stuff I'd have to apologize for if everything I said was reported by the media. Take chances onstage and you're bound to misstep occasionally. And once in a while, you may misstep badly. That's part of the deal.

(Note: I'd be more likely to condemn a written/planned joke than a riff. Malice aforethought, etc. But I'd still probably be way more lenient on that than an ordinary person. Also worth keeping in mind: I don't understand being offended.)

The conversation reminds me of Dave Chappelle's thoughts on Richards' meltdown at The Laugh Factory. While performing on the same stage, Chappelle explained how watching the whole thing made him realize he's "20% black and 80% comedian."

The black dude in me is like "Kramer, you motherfucker." I was hurt. And the comedian in me was just like "Whoa, nigger's having a bad set. Hang in there, Kramer. Don't let 'em break you, Kramer!"




Obviously Chappelle hates what Richards said. But he's been in the trenches too and can't help but identify with a guy who's losing it onstage while dealing with a non-receptive crowd. That's the empathy you get from walking in a comedian's shoes.

I'm not saying Morgan should have said what he said. I get why gay folks are especially pissed. I know the goal of those criticizing him is a noble one. But the road to neutered standup is paved with good intentions.

I believe the standup stage is a sacred space; It's one of the few places left where people are allowed to experiment, confront, and dance with ideas that society generally tiptoes around or avoids completely. That won't always go well. But if you try to take away the shitty part of that, you're likely to sacrifice the wonderful part of it too.

6/17/11

Road shows

Late start (9:30pm) this week at Hot Soup. I won't be there though. I'll be upstate tonight, Boston next week.

June 17 - 8:00pm - Stone Mill Theater (Little Falls, NY)
June 21 - 8:30pm - Gotham Comedy Club (Vintage Lounge)
June 22 - 8:00pm - Mottley's (Boston, MA)
June 22 - 9:30pm - Lilypad (Boston, MA)
June 23 - 8:00pm - Mottley's (Boston, MA)
June 24 - 8:00pm - The Comedy Studio (Boston, MA)
June 24 - 11:30pm - Nightcap @ ImprovBoston (Boston, MA)

6/16/11

Stakes

Was talking about this with a couple other comics last night: How much are you putting on the line when you're onstage? If you're taking a risk or admitting something you shouldn't admit or showing vulnerability or laying it out in some other way, the audience can sense it. You're putting more chips on the table. If it pays off, the audience will give you back that much more. And the opposite is true too: If your jokes are low stakes, there's a ceiling to the kind of emotional connection you can make with a crowd. Of course, all that's easier said than done.

6/14/11

Getting the flame

Seth Meyers on doing bits with Fred Armisen:

When Fred Armisen is doing an Update bit that's not going well, that's probably the hardest to not laugh because he is the most fearless performer. Once he did his Native American stand-up comedian character, and the audience just wasn't going for it. But it's this great thing — you don't worry because he couldn't care less. I feel stressed when other people's [bits] don't go well, but with Fred, I've been trained to just go with it and know that for certain people, it's gonna be their favorite thing.


Two things interesting there: 1) The idea of associating commitment and fearlessness. In a way, really committing to a bit is actually just letting go of fear. 2) Enjoying when a bit doesn't go well. As long as most of your stuff works, it can be fun to soak in the occasional misfire.

Here's Armisen in "couldn't care less" mode:

6/13/11

Fung Wah and fedoras

Some things I posted recently at twitter.com/mattruby:

Coldplay's new single is called "Every Teardrop Is a Waterfall." It's almost as if they are mocking themselves at this point.

You can tell how badly a woman wants to have children by how many pillows she has on her bed. More than five = the nesting process has begun.

Gonna start a Kickstarter page. Raising funds to support my new project: "I know how to spend your money better than you."

Philly-NYC Chinatown bus is a great way to get up to speed on race relations between Asian & Black people. Update: It's not going well.

No one loves having children more than boring people.

Obama won't release OBL photo: "We don't need to spike the football." Good point. When you kill someone, act like you've been there before.

The worst way to handle going bald: Becoming a hat guy. "Yeah, I'm just really into fedoras now."

Some men call it their "junk." Other men call it "the family jewels." Just goes to show: One man's trash is another man's treasure.

6/9/11

Good Katz Hot Soup and upcoming Boston shows

The lineup for Friday (6/9) night's show:

Louis Katz
Karl Hess
Jason Good
David Smithyman
Andy Haynes
Matt Ruby

Hot Soup!
Every Friday at 8pm
FREE SHOW
O'Hanlon's (back room)
349 E 14th St between 1st and 2nd Ave. (map)
Produced by Matt Ruby, Mark Normand, Andy Haynes, and David Cope

You can also see me at these shows:

June 9 - 9:00pm - CSL Anniversary Show @ Kabin
June 9 - 10:00pm - Comedy Death Match @ The Creek
June 10 - 8:00pm - Hot Soup @ O'Hanlon's
June 11 - 9:00pm - SOS @ Village Lantern
June 11 - 11:00pm - SOS @ Village Lantern
June 14 - 8:00pm - See You Next Tuesday @ Simply Fondue
June 17 - 8:00pm - Stone Mill Theater (Little Falls, NY)
June 21 - 8:30pm - Gotham Comedy Club (Vintage Lounge)
June 22 - 8:00pm - Mottley's (Boston, MA)
June 22 - 9:30pm - Lilypad (Boston, MA)
June 23 - 8:00pm - Mottley's (Boston, MA)
June 24 - 8:00pm - The Comedy Studio (Boston, MA)
June 26 - 8:00pm - Cold Soda @ The PIT

More shows

6/8/11

Character-driven vs. joke-driven

From ‘The Hangover’ and the Age of the Jokeless Comedy:

All modern movie comedies can be divided roughly into two categories: character-driven and joke-driven. The first category includes movies like “Beverly Hills Cop, ” “Meet the Parents, ” “Manhattan” and “The Hangover”; the second includes movies like “Austin Powers, ” “Blazing Saddles, ” “Bananas” and “Airplane!” The primary distinction lies in their respective relationship to reality. In character-driven comedies, funny people say funny things and fall into funny situations, but it’s all contained within the realm of plausible realism; nothing absurd or unbelievable occurs. Joke-driven comedies, by contrast, start with the absurd and unbelievable and go from there. Their jokes burst the boundaries of realism; in fact, they’re often about bursting the boundaries of realism. Character-driven comedy is Meg Ryan loudly faking an orgasm in a deli and an old woman saying, “I’ll have what she’s having”; joke-driven comedy is a woman (in “Top Secret”) being asked to translate a conversation and saying, “I know a little German, ” then turning and waving at a midget in lederhosen.


Interesting idea. I first wondered if you can translate this to standup too. Like that great standup comedy is either character-driven/reality-based (Pryor, Birbigs, Patrice, Shillue) or joke-driven/absurdist (Hedberg, Demetri, Galifianakis, Steve Martin).

But that seems a bit too tidy to me. Especially since character-driven stuff still requires jokes in the mix. Also, punchlines often involve straining reality and heightening to absurdity. That's why they're surprising/funny.

Actually, it feels like a lot of great standup involves a hybrid of the two categories. Like how PFT starts off real and then voices a migrant laborer on "Impersonal." Or how Dangerfield is a defined character who tells reality bursting jokes about his parents/wife/doctor treating him like shit. Or how Bill Burr is a real dude who fantasizes about what it would be like to plow over 30 pedestrians in his car.

6/3/11

Every joke has a target

I hear a lot of jokes about homeless people. And I always think to myself, "Wow, you really showed them!" Because what the hell is the point of going after someone who has already been kicked around plenty?

Every joke has a victim. Someone is the target. (Well, maybe not in absurdist stuff. But anyway...) So, in a way, jokes are weapons. Use them to attack the powerful/majority/deserving and you're Robin Hood. (Huzzah!) Use them to attack the helpless/weak/undeserving and you're a bully. (Jerk!)

Paul F. Tompkins talks about his "personal comedy code" and wrestling with how mean to be in Judging ‘Idol,’ a look at his American Idol recaps.

Early on, I took swipes at Tyler’s appearance; I made jokes about a chubby 16-year-old’s chubbiness. A friend reviewed one of these early recaps thusly: “Hilariously mean!” That struck me. I realized I was headed down a bad road. I long ago vowed, as Batman did before me, never to make fun of stuff that people couldn’t help. Because it’s (1) easy and (2) not fair. There are plenty of things that people have complete control over that are worthy of ridicule. So I concentrated on what people wore, how they mangled common phrases and idioms, and how they treated each other...

So from then on, I considered what I was writing more carefully, soon realizing that the hardest thing to do is make fun of contestants without being nasty. I eventually figured out the way in: Most of the contestants believed that they were excellent singers. Therefore, if they weren’t, I could totally make fun of them! Fantastic! I felt within my rights taking shots at people who crave the validation of strangers, since I’m a stranger-validation craver myself! (Take my very low opinion of recently ousted James Durbin’s parenting skills: His sob story included having no money for food and diapers—was entering a singing contest really the most responsible solution?)

That approach worked with everyone except the youngest contestants. Too young! Why did I get dealt the season where they let essentially children enter, to be judged by an entire nation? What is this, Charles Dickens tymes? I am a gentleman of the old school, and I consider it unsporting to ridicule children unless it’s in private and with good friends. How do I criticize them without being a bully? By turning on a more appropriate target (which, in my personal comedy code, is always the most powerful): the glorified sweatshop owners exploiting the dreams of these kids, the producers of this bloated cash cow. So as the weeks wore on, my jokes became less about the performances and more about the situation in which the contestants were placed.


It's neat to see this level of self-examination from PFT. And a good reminder to every comic to think about whom you're attacking and how much they truly deserve it.

6/2/11

We're All Friends Here on Saturday (6/4) with Good, Dale, and Sanni

The lineup:
Jason Good
Thomas Dale
Rae Sanni

Saturday, June 4 - 8:00pm
FREE
The Creek and The Cave
10-93 Jackson Avenue
Long Island City, NY
Facebook invite

6/1/11

Here's why I don't want to hear about your ADD

I posted this at Twitter: "A lot of people claim to have ADD. But I bet if they were starving and had to hunt for a meal, they'd be able to concentrate for a while." Must have struck a nerve; It was retweeted almost 100 times, way more than anything else I've ever posted there.

Some ADD folks fought back. One replied: "people with ADD can 'hyperfocus' if their brain chooses to. So yes." Another responded: "Re: ADD We don't focus, we *hyperfocus*. Have you read Thom Hartmann's 'Hunter vs. Farmer' theory?"

Hyperfocus! That sounds great. I didn't know ADD folks actually had a superpower. It's like you were exposed to radiation at a nuclear factory as a kid and now you get to yell things like "Quick, to the Ritalin Cave! It's time to hyperfocus!"

I guess I didn't know about it because I've never heard anyone say, "I've got ADD. That's why I'm so hyperfocused on what you're talking about right now! Tell me more. I'm fascinated with what you are saying and I can't wait to pay more attention to you."

That's not the ADD I ever see. The one I tend to encounter: "I've got ADD. That's why I can't do my homework, sit still, listen to anything you say, or...wait, what was I talking about?"

See, I have this crazy theory: When you have a hard time paying attention to things that aren't interesting to you, that's not a disease. That's actually totally normal. (OK, maybe a few people out there have a brain chemistry issue that needs correcting. I'm guessing that's a tiny percentage of the people who claim ADD though.)

The real problem is society and what we surround ourselves with: smartphones, Facebook updates, Twitter posts, YouTube videos, emails, IM messages, texts, Foursquare check-ins, iPods, iPads, laptops, TVs in bars, TVs in backs of cabs, TVs in elevators. Elevators! We can't even go five floors without a goddamn TV.

I was on the Q train the other day and as soon as the train got out of the tunnel and went over the Manhattan Bridge (cell service then becomes available), every single person in that car immediately went to check their phone. We looked like a bunch of jonesing addicts that were finally given access to a pile of glistening needles.

Labelling this a disease is a lie. First off, it should be a red flag when everyone has the same disease. Also, a disease is when your body isn't functioning correctly. That's not what's going on. Our bodies are doing exactly what they should do: freaking the fuck out because they are being attacked by information and don't know how to process it all.

So let's stop blaming our bodies. We, as individuals and as a society, are making choices. We're continually choosing to stick our faces in front of this information-spewing fire hydrant.

Yet instead of accepting responsibility for our behavior, we choose to disease-ify everything. We let Merck, Pfizer, and the rest of the pharmaceutical industrial complex sign us (and our children) up for their neverending subscription programs that pick our pockets on a monthly basis while we tell ourselves we're the poor victims here instead of admitting we're junkies.

And while we're on the subject, let's settle down with everyone being "depressed" too. Depressed is just what we call people who understand what's happening. Look around. If you're not at least a little depressed, that's when you should be worried something's wrong with you.

And don't take a pill to forget about your "depression" either. You feel pain for a reason; It's your body trying to tell you something's wrong. Listen to it, don't numb it. The solution to touching a scalding hot pan is to stop touching the damn pan, not to take some pill that makes you forget your flesh is melting.

Oh, and while I'm addressing disease inflation, I suggest we rename "Type 2 Diabetes" to "You ate too much poison that laboratories in New Jersey disguised as food."

Ever notice how rarely these things exist in third world countries? Starving people who are desperate for a meal don't have ADD, Type 2 Diabetes, or depression. They have real problems. The prevalence of these "diseases" here are a sign of our society's excessive wealth and free time. Malaria, now there's a disease. Being bored and checking Facebook a lot? That's a choice.

Listen, I'm as guilty as the next guy. I raced to check my phone on that train. A 500+ page book? Uh, no thank you. Read your screenplay? Doubtful. When my phone vibrates, I stop caring about what someone is telling me because I just want to look at my phone. Because my phone wants to tell me something about me! And there is no more fascinating topic to me than me.

But I do not have a disease. It's my fault. I'm making choices. I spend too much time staring at screens. And when you constantly bask in the glow of pixels that are customized to your every whim, almost everything else, including actual human beings, starts to pale in comparison.

So ADD people, let's all just be honest and admit that the real problem...ah, who am I kidding? There's no way they made it this far.

5/31/11

Pat Dixon on walking the line

Great (audio) interview: Portrait Of A Comedian with Pat Dixon. Here he talks about being provocative and the line he walks.

I thought people wanted to hear outrageous things. My intention wasn't to provoke. It was to get laughs. To me, what's funny is something that's wildly inappropriate. There's kinda a parenthetical statement: "Wouldn't it be fucked up if someone said this?" And that is where I come from.

I got it from watching my dad make mistakes and say things he shouldn't be saying to strangers. And you see people and there's kinda like a hitch: Did he hear what he just said? Does he understand how that sounds?

And then too I had a guy throw a glass at me one time. And that sorta caused a reversal. It will begin to hurt your business. Clubs don't want to have people in who make people super angry.


Also, he talks about the duality of pain and anger and why it's important to be vulnerable onstage (something he admits he's not good at).

If you have two emotions at the same time, pain and anger. In fact, those two are kind of inseparable. Relate to the pain and it will improve your comedy. Not the anger. Because if you're relating to the anger, it's harder for people. It's a bolder thing.

Even if you are talking about the anger, the pain has to be there. That's where the vulnerability comes in. And that's what I've never been good at onstage. To be like "This hurts. This is me. This is what's wrong with me. This is what I did. This is what I brought to it." It's always just "Here's five things that I hate about these people." And that's a losing formula.




More Pat.

5/26/11

Hot Soup with Kurt Braunohler

The lineup for Friday (5/27) night's show:

Kurt Braunohler
Moody McCarthy
Jason Saenz
Nore Davis
Matt Ruby

David Cope is hosting.

Hot Soup!
Every Friday at 8pm
FREE SHOW
O'Hanlon's (back room)
349 E 14th St between 1st and 2nd Ave. (map)
Produced by Matt Ruby, Mark Normand, Andy Haynes, and David Cope

You can also see me at these shows:
Fri May 27 - 9:00pm - Village Lantern
Tue May 31 - 8:30pm - Swick and Easy Comedy Show @ Sunswick (Astoria)
Wed Jun 1 - 9:00pm - And Then What Happened? @ Under St. Marks Theater
Sat Jun 4 - 8:00pm - We're All Friends Here @ The Creek (LIC)
Sun Jun 5 - 8:00pm - Sunday Night Live @ Broadway Comedy Club
More shows

5/25/11

The Bill Clinton speech that Louis CK calls "one of the greatest things I ever saw"

A conversation with Louis CK [thx MV] at Esquire:

One of the greatest things I ever saw was [Bill Clinton] at Coretta Scott King's funeral. Jimmy Carter, George Bush Senior, Hillary — all these people making speeches, and then Bill Clinton goes on and he says, "Let's all remember that that is a woman lying right there." And he points at her.

It was audacious. "That is a woman who had her dreams and her pain and her passions," and I think he said "lust." He said really personal shit about her and you immediately heard the black people go, "Yes!"

He says, "There's her family — think about what they're going through today, and everything that's happened to them since their daddy got shot. The burden that must have been hers."

Holy shit. I hope to have any of that skill as a comic. He just found this short circuit. You try to have this nature the way water does — finds the lowest place and spreads the fuck out. That's what he did.


Here's the part of that speech he's referring to...



There's also a story he tells about going to a Knicks game with Chris Rock a few months ago:

Carmelo's first game. We went up to that fucking suite where all these people were eating — politicians and mobsters and Chloë Sevigny. There's this spread of food, and I'm like, "Let's fucking eat." Chris goes, "Nah, let's get down to the floor." I'm like, "You're taking this shit for granted, Chris. There's roast beef and a guy with a hat serving it." I wanted it so bad. I was starving and he's like, "Who needs it?" And I'm like, "Are you kidding me? I'll probably never get here again."

So we go down, and I'm watching Carmelo, and I hear the song "Louie Louie" and I look up and I see my own face on the Jumbotron. And Chris says, "You know what, man, you've got your own show, and I'm on Broadway, and we're on the floor at Madison Square Garden. How fucking great is this?" And we high-fived and we just felt so good. Both of us, we're in our 40s — this shit could disappear instantly, never to return. And it will.


And one other interesting part: CK says that although Letterman is his favorite, he's been told he's "not okay there anymore" and no one will tell him why. He hasn't done the show in 15 years. Weird.

5/24/11

Listen to the 3rd anniversary We're All Friends Here show with Yannis Pappas, Jesse Popp, and Dan Soder

Listen to We're All Friends Here at BreakThru Radio. It's the third anniversary show with Yannis Pappas, Jesse Popp, and Dan Soder. It was pretty damn great.

00:00 Mark Normand and Matt Ruby Intro
01:02 Yannis Pappas
27:24 Mark Normand and Matt Ruby
28:44 Jesse Popp
42:15 Mark Normand and Matt Ruby
43:17 Dan Soder
78:12 Mark Normand and Matt Ruby
79:19 Finish


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5/23/11

The cheap way to do it

People usually think of funny/scary the same way. If it's funny, it's funny. If it's scary, it's scary. But Bridesmaids Director Paul Feig talks about how there's a cheap way to get laughs/screams or a "true" way in this A.V. Club interview:

Our editor is full of quotes. Bill Kerr. He has his whole theory called “the angry villagers.” Which is basically if the movie starts out and the jokes aren’t funny or they aren’t laughing, they become angry villagers and they want to burn the whole town down. And we’re always like, “Okay this is an ‘angry villagers’ moment” where, like, two jokes in a row didn’t work and now people are going to start losing trust in us. Because that’s all you have at the end of the day as a filmmaker, is the trust of your audience.

You think the same way when you go see a drama or a horror movie or something and the director is just letting stuff like jump out at you and scare the shit out of you in like, a cheap way, then you’re like, “Okay, I don’t trust this director anymore, so I don’t trust this movie because it’s just going do easy shit to make me jump.” Then you almost don’t want to deal with it anymore if that’s not the experience you went for, but there’s a way to scare people, truly, or just be the little kid who hides in the laundry and scares the shit out of mom. And that’s a cheap way to do it.


Seems like dick jokes, cursing, pop culture references, etc. are standup's version of the little kid in the laundry. You may get laughs with 'em, but it's not the valuable kind.

5/20/11

Louis CK tees off on heckler

The ol' 1) ask nicely → 2) take 'em down approach.

Loud talker. CK says, "When you talk, I hear it in my ear and it fucks up my timing and it makes my job hard. So could you not talk during my act please?"

Guy decides to go back at him. Big mistake. CK rips him. Crowd boos the guy. CK: "People that don't know you hate you. That can't feel very good."

5/19/11

Soupin' w/ Stuckey & Murray

The lineup for Friday (5/20) night's show:

Stuckey & Murray
George Gordon
Phil Hanley
Kate Lee
Andy Haynes

I am hosting.

Hot Soup!
Every Friday at 8pm
FREE SHOW
O'Hanlon's (back room)
349 E 14th St between 1st and 2nd Ave. (map)
Produced by Matt Ruby, Mark Normand, Andy Haynes, and David Cope

5/16/11

The problem with “write what you know”

Comics aren't the only ones that talk about finding “your voice.” Below, an excerpt from author Rafael Yglesias' "There Are No Rules - Cliches for Aspiring Writers" (bold emphasis is mine).

The same caveat applies to the famous advice given to all neophyte writers, “Write what you know.” The implication is autobiography in some form: memoir, fiction in which you are the main character, stories about your family, your background, someone you know well. But the advice is too banal to be useful to a young writer without an obviously compelling story to tell.

What if you are unlucky enough not to have endured the Holocaust, witnessed Apartheid, or been sexually abused by your father? What if you feel that the world you know, although thoroughly unpleasant, is also very dull? Or has been written about so well by another that you have nothing to add?

“Write what you know.”

But what do you know? Is it compelling? I don’t mean to your readers. To you. You will keep company with your writing longer than anyone else. (Unless you’re Tolstoy and your wife copies all your manuscripts by hand seven times over.)

If your subject doesn’t involve emotions, ideas, truths and lies that delight, frighten, soothe and enrage you, how can you expect it to fascinate a stranger? Whether you want to entertain or to provoke, to break hearts or reassure them, what you bring to your writing must consist of your longings and disappointments...

Don’t write what you know.

Don’t write what you love to read.

Don’t write what publishers are looking for.

Don’t write what critics are hailing.

Don’t write what your creative writing teacher claims is the only form of literature that is still dynamic.

Write what horrifies you, write what charms you, write what repels you, write what you love, write, to be aphoristic, what you cannot stop yourself from writing.

Yes, you will have to find “your voice,” and yes, you will have to learn the craft of writing, which is endlessly demanding and so varied that you will probably never feel you are more than a clumsy student. And don’t limit yourself to study only the craft necessary to produce your particular kind of writing. Also learn how the writers you have contempt for do what they do; you may discover something useful for your work.

But all of those necessary skills are servants to your Lord and Master: write what you cannot stop yourself from thinking about, even if it disgusts everyone you know. Readers read to subsume their consciousness, for a profound but limited time, into another’s. Some want reassurance, some want challenge. Some want pleasant lies, some painful realities. You may be unlucky and be fated to have a small audience. That’s too bad. (By the way, it is the fate of almost every writer.)

Over time, if you work hard and write what obsesses you, there will be readers who will want to live in your peculiar universe, and precisely because what you have provided is rare they will be all the more grateful for your creation.


"Write what you cannot stop yourself from thinking about, even if it disgusts everyone you know." Tough to argue with. If it obsesses you, it shows. And vice versa too.

I've heard Howard Stern say something similar too. Something along the lines of: Whatever makes you feel most uncomfortable talking about is the thing you most need to be talking about. Because that's what people want to hear.

And btw, I looked up the definition of subsume: "to include or place within something larger or more comprehensive." So that's what an audience wants to do to your consciousness with theirs. Freaks.

5/12/11

Hot Soup with Kaplan & Vatterot

The lineup for Friday (5/13) night's show:

Myq Kaplan (The Tonight Show, Last Comic Standing finalist)
Nick Vatterot (Late Night with Jimmy Fallon)
Adrienne Iapalucci (Last Comic Standing)
Tim Dimond (Comcast Comedy Spotlight on Demand)
Cameron Esposito (from Chicago)
Beth Stelling (from Chicago)
Mark Normand

I am hosting.

Hot Soup!
Every Friday at 8pm
FREE SHOW
O'Hanlon's (back room)
349 E 14th St between 1st and 2nd Ave. (map)
Produced by Matt Ruby, Mark Normand, Andy Haynes, and David Cope

You can also see me at these shows:
Thu May 12 - 9:00pm - Sugar Laughs Comedy @ Sugar Lounge (Brooklyn)
Sat May 14 - 8:00pm - The Royal Oak Comedy Show @ Royal Oak (Brooklyn)
Wed May 18 - 8:00pm - The Ministry of Secret Jokes (Philadelphia, PA)
More shows

5/11/11

You're the one making it weird

Did a show earlier this week that was less than ideal setup. First show at this venue and the audience was in one long wide row. 20 people or so just lined up horizontally down the bar, like a receiving line or something.

Needless to say, every comic went up and commented about the setup and how weird it was and how they felt uncomfortable, etc. Show was fine but it never got hot.

After, I had an interesting convo with a gal at the show. She's not a comedy savvy person, just someone who showed up to see a show. And to her, it was strange that every comic kept talking about how weird it was. Because to her, it didn't feel weird at all. She was enjoying it. So was the person next to her. She just didn't get why each comic would go up there and talk about it being a shitty setup. If it wasn't for that, she never would have known anything bad was going on.

That was an interesting reminder to me of how much you lead the audience when you're onstage. If you keep talking about how weird it is, it will be weird. You're basically doubling down on the unpleasantness. On the other hand, you can ignore it and just keep going as if it's a great show.

It's a balance. You don't want to seem tone deaf while ignoring a shitty situation. But then again, you're prob not helping much if you dwell on it over and over.

5/10/11

Little Bets and Chris Rock

Years ago, I got to watch Chris Rock work out new material and wrote about it here and here. Peter Sims, author of a book on leadership, stumbled on it and wrote about it at the Harvard Business School blog.

Sims called me up a few months later and interviewed me about how Rock and other comics work on new bits. The result: I'm mentioned in the intro to Sims' new book, Little Bets: How Breakthrough Ideas Emerge from Small Discoveries. Here's what the book is about...

Based on deep and extensive research, Sims discovered that productive, creative thinkers and doers—from Ludwig van Beethoven to Thomas Edison and Amazon’s Jeff Bezos—practice a set of simple but often counterintuitive experimental methods—such as failing quickly to learn fast, trying imperfect ideas, and engaging in highly immersed observation—that free their minds, opening them up to making unexpected connections and perceiving invaluable insights. These methods also unshackle them from the constraints of conventional planning, analytical thinking, and linear problem solving that our educational system overemphasizes at the expense of creativity.


...and here's the part of the intro that talks about Rock and "fellow comedians" like Jerry Seinfeld and, ahem, me. (Insert crude comment of your choice here.)

Chris Rock has become one of the most popular comedians in the world and, while there is no doubt he has great talent, his brilliance also comes from his approach to developing his ideas. the routines he rolls out on his global tours are the output of what he has learned from thousands of little bets, nearly all of which fail.

When beginning to work on a new show, Rock picks venues where he can experiment with new material in very rough fashion. in gearing up for his latest global tour, he made between forty and fifty appearances at a small comedy club, called stress Factory, in New Brunswick, New Jersey, not far from where he lives. in front of audiences of, say, fifty people, he will show up unannounced, carrying a yellow legal note pad with ideas scribbled on it. “it’s like boxing training camp,” Rock told the Orange County Register.

When people in the audience spot him, they start whispering to one another. As the waitstaff and other comedians find places to stand at the sides or back, the room quickly fills with anticipation. He won’t launch into the familiar performance mode his fans describe as “the full preacher effect,” when he uses animated body language, pitchy and sassy vocal intonations, and erupting facial expressions. instead, he will talk with the audience in an informal, conversational style with his notepad on a stool beside him. He watches the audience intently, noticing heads nodding, shifting body language, or attentive pauses, all clues as to where good ideas might reside.

In sets that run around forty-five minutes, most of the jokes fall flat. His early performances can be painful to watch. Jokes will ramble, he’ll lose his train of thought and need to refer to his notes, and some audience members sit with their arms folded, noticeably unimpressed. the audience will laugh about his flops—laughing at him, not with him. Often Rock will pause and say, “This needs to be fleshed out more if it’s gonna make it,” before scribbling some notes. He may think he has come up with the best joke ever, but if it keeps missing with audiences, that becomes his reality. Other times, a joke he thought would be a dud will bring the house down. According to fellow comedian Matt Ruby, “There are five to ten lines during the night that are just ridiculously good. Like lightning bolts. My sense is that he starts with these bolts and then writes around them.”

For a full routine, Rock tries hundreds (if not thousands) of preliminary ideas, out of which only a handful will make the final cut. A successful joke often has six or seven parts. With that level of complexity, it’s understandable that even a comedian as successful as Chris Rock wouldn’t be able to know which joke elements and which combinations will work. This is true for every stand-up comedian, including the top performers we tend to perceive as creative geniuses, like Rock or Jerry Seinfeld. it’s also true for comedy writers. The writers for the humor publication the Onion, known for its hilarious headlines, propose roughly six hundred possibilities for eighteen headlines each week, a 3 percent success rate. “You can sit down and spend hours crafting some joke that you think is perfect, but a lot of the time, that’s just a waste of time,” Ruby explains. this may seem like an obvious problem, but it’s a mistake that rookie comedians make all the time.

By the time Rock reaches a big show — say an HBO special or an appearance on David Letterman — his jokes, opening, transitions, and closing have all been tested and retested rigorously. Developing an hour-long act takes even top comedians from six months to a year. If comedians are serious about success, they get on stage every night they can, especially when developing new material. they typically do so at least five nights per week, sometimes up to seven, and sweat over every element and word. And the cycle repeats, day in, day out.

Most people are surprised that someone who has reached Chris Rock’s level of success still puts himself out there in this way, willing to fail night after night, but Rock deeply understands that ingenious ideas almost never spring into people’s minds fully formed; they emerge through a rigorous experimental discovery process. As Matt Ruby says of Rock’s performances, “I’m not sure there’s any better comedy class than watching someone that good work on material at that stage. More than anything, you see how much hard work it is. He’s grinding out this material.”


Sims recently emailed me with the news that Little Bets had a very successful release week.

To quote Yogi Berra, “We were over-whelming underdogs,” but the book is currently in the top 200 of all books on Amazon (#1 for entrepreneurship on Kindle, #5 hard copy), and has received very good reviews and mentions including in The Wall Street Journal, TechCrunch, and The Economist.


Here's the full introduction (PDF) to the book.

5/5/11

Sat night = 3rd Anniversary Show for We're All Friends Here

Whoa, it's been three years of talking about sex, drugs, bad parenting, and gunshot wounds. Good times. So let's celebrate with a big anniversary show. Like past ones, we're bringing back three of our fave guests for a return trip to the hot seat. This time we've got:

Yannis Pappas
Jesse Popp
Dan Soder

If you have liver problems, this is the show for you!

Saturday, May 7 - 8:00pm
FREE
The Creek and The Cave
10-93 Jackson Avenue
Long Island City, NY
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5/3/11

Nick Griffin and the in-between

In the comments to "The bad of cursing and the good of being conversational," ECN rails against comedians who "just go up there and talk" and praises great comics who avoid sounding conversational. "This rambling trend is a plague upon real, crafted comedy," he writes.

I know where he's coming from. Because I know when I get too conversational, I can feel the air slowly escaping the room. And I hate when others just ramble and use words as if they're free. They're not. The audience pays for them with attention.

But it feels like this is painting with broad strokes. Like there's only two paths...

There's the joke guy. With all the one-liners and quick hit bits. He's good at being clever but there's often a lack of soulfulness and depth there. He gets a chuckle but no one (including him) really cares about what he's saying in any meaningful way.

And there's the personal, conversational, in-flow guy who is organic and brings you into his world with stories and longer bits. He'll sometimes favor narrative over punches because he's trying to tell a story or get across a point of view or be a more fully fleshed out personality onstage. (Or maybe he just can't write that many great punchlines since that's, y'know, hard.)

But isn't there middle ground here? The "in-between" comic with quick jokes who still manages to bring you inside their world. They're talking about their life and what matters to them and getting across who they are as a person — but doing it with tight, quick jokes.

I think Nick Griffin is a great example of this. Exquisitely well-edited jokes. Not a wasted word. But there's also a thread through 'em.

You watch his set and you feel you know him. He's not going into long stories about his divorce or drinking. But he's dropping enough breadcrumbs along the way that when you connect the dots, he seems like an actual, fleshed out human being talking about the things that obsess him. It's dark and sad and a real thing of beauty.

5/2/11

Southern discomfort

I've been drinking whiskey lately. Like a grownup, ya know? And I've noticed something interesting: Cheap whiskeys are named the exact opposite of the people who drink them.

There's Old Grand-Dad. But let's be honest. If you're drinking Old Grand-Dad, you're probably a young grand-dad. You're 32 and putting a diaper on lil' Garth III.

That guy passed out on the sidewalk outside Mars Bar at 3pm on a Tuesday? He spent the day drinking Kentucky Gentleman. Hey, nothing says gentleman like a top hat, monocle, and a puddle of urine!

Canadian Club? Not a very exclusive club. Mostly you just need to be an alcoholic.

Crown Royal? Odd that it's the whiskey of both royalty and homeless people.

Booker's? Drunk almost exclusively by illiterates.

Southern Comfort? Ideal for those who take comfort in vomiting.

Old Crow? Actually, that one's pretty spot on.

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